I know I just said

[brainofck]

Stupid spam... I'm going through 1500 that dumped into our spam folder in the last ten days, and the folder's prolly been full since last Thursday...

Anyway.

UPDATE: Argh! It just keeps growing! Um. No pun... *snickers*

UPDATE: My helper, mresundance advises me that the problem is that the boyfriend is TOO SMALL! Well, I thought he must be too big and not fitting! Apparently, I was totally wrong! What a confusing letter for Mr. Savage. I'm sure he's quite annoyed now. "What is this, some kind of joke?!" Anyway, I have been advised that Mr. Savage is a poo head who fears bi sexuality. Like, as a straight woman, I could cheat on my husband with 3.5 billion people - the 50% of the world that is men. But as a bi woman, I could cheat on him with OMG 7 BILLION PEOPLE! Of course, I would cheat!!!

Sorry. Moving on.




September 4, 2007

mail@savagelove.net



Dear Savage Love:

I just started having sex, buy my boyfriend keeps popping out when we do it.

What can I do? Any suggestions would be much appreciated.

Sincerely,

Danny J.
(DiggingDanny@gmail.com)

PS: Also, my boyfriend's dick is too big for my mouth. :( His tool is enormous, and my mouth is tiny.







muck_a_luck: I still think he pops out because he's too big.
mresundance: :p too small or maybe he's just a clutz
muck_a_luck: *cries laughing*

I crack me up. Jack reads his e-mail.

Comments

[cocoajava.livejournal.com]

I.... cannot form a witty response as I cannot stop laughing!

[brainofck.livejournal.com]

Please to note update! :D

[cocoajava.livejournal.com]

*is ded* I need to be cleaning the kitchen, demmit! Please to be stopping being so entertaining!

[green-grrl.livejournal.com]

Anyway, I have been advised that Mr. Savage is a poo head who fears bi sexuality.

??? I read Dan Savage every week, and have never noticed him fearing bisexuality in the least. In fact he's sure to pipe up with the facts when people quote the "bad" research on bisexuality.

(Also? Danny J.'s mouth is SO not tiny! ;-)

[mresundance.livejournal.com]

http://www.avclub.com/content/node/47783

And I no longer believe that most bisexuals wind up in them because you're all liars and cheats, or that you're all dying to access societal perks reserved for heterosexuals, or that you're all cowards and it's hard out here for a homo. I think most bisexuals wind up in heterosexual relationships because most bisexuals are mostly hetero. You may be physically attracted to both sexes, but most of you can only fall in love with an opposite-sex partner.

Yeah, to his credit, his trying to change his old tune, but it's basically the same: bisexuality isn't legit, isn't real, and you're pretty much straight in denial or mostly hetero or something.

I like him okay, he has some neat insights sometimes, but sometimes in the past he has been an arsehole about this issue and continues to be in some ways.

I'm sorry, Dan, but we can't just uninvite the bisexual kids because you're afraid you might get some straight cooties today.

see also

[mresundance.livejournal.com]

older, mind:

http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=2859

Sorry, but avoiding bi guys is a good rule of thumb for gay men looking for long-term relationships. Outside of San Francisco's alternate-universe bisexual community, there aren't many bi guys who want or wind up in long-term, same-sex relationships -- monogamous or not. Surely it's not news to you that people are put under a lot of pressure to choose partners of the opposite sex. The number of homos who succumb to this pressure is staggering, so it should come as no shock that most bisexuals wind up with opposite-sex partners. And while many straight men are delighted to discover their girlfriends are bisexual, most straight women are not delighted to discover their boyfriends are bisexual. Consequently, bi guys who want opposite sex partners are under tremendous pressure to stay closeted. And when a guy is closeted -- as most bi guys are -- he can't really be there for his boyfriend, can he?

He has good points, but then, he undercuts a lot of ideas that butress the LBGT movement (lesbian, gay, bi, trans) and our group unity, really. Bi people, because they fall off the strict "black and white, straight or gay" kind of map, really shake up the system. This only helps people to have positive acknowledgment of bisexuality and sexualities that are not just "straight" or "gay". It gets people to think of sexuality beyond certain boundaries and freed from certain strictures. It gets people to see that sexuality is nuanced for everyone. And every thus has more room to express their sexualities.

It's helpful to everyone.

I personally think we are born bisexual in potentional, but western society likes to wring it out of us.

If Dan spent more time being openly supportive of bi people, he might be helping them from going back into the closet.

Additionally, I would be thrilled to find an openly bi, androgynous dude to shack up with. RLY. I could braid his hair!

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[green-grrl.livejournal.com]

Wow, I missed those columns. (The first one was before he was in the local weekly.)

I've seen that attitude, a lot, from both gays and straights. I had a lovely -- read "uncomfortable" -- moment outing myself to a new boyfriend's stepfather at a family dinner when he pronounced that 'you know who was disgusting was all bisexuals -- they're cheaters and liars.' To be fair he backpedaled very quickly and was pleased to meet an out-and-proud bi, and I know he was friends with a couple who got divorced because the husband had been sneaking off and tricking for years until he got busted. It is the cheaters and liars who give that rep to bis.

And Dan's right -- if it were more acceptable to be bi (or gay) instead of married-with-children, people wouldn't lie so much. But you're right, too -- considering that gays dealt for years with the stereotype that they were all nancing drag queens, Dan would do well to not make such sweeping pronouncements. San Francisco's alternate-universe community has had a powerful impact on national acceptance of homosexuality -- why not bisexuality?

What I've seen from him lately have been columns debunking research that says bisexuality is a myth, and columns acknowledging that sometimes some people go through a "phase" of being bi before coming out as gay, and some people really are bi.

Additionally, I would be thrilled to find an openly bi, androgynous dude to shack up with. RLY. I could braid his hair!

Ditto! Bonus points for polyamorous.

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[mresundance.livejournal.com]

:D

I don't know if I could do polyamory well. I am too much of a concentrated/focused person. One person at time is enough for me to handle!

I'd probably get jealous too if my partner was poly. :( So, not a win-win.

But the occassional threesome is good. >)

[mresundance.livejournal.com]

You didn't cry laughing!

You just cried! :P

Poor boy with no penial motor skillz.

[catzslave.livejournal.com]

These kind of posts are what keeps my spouse looking at me funny and proves I am easily amused. :)

[cocoajava.livejournal.com]

*can't stop laughing*

Maybe he's just too SLIPPERY??????