Dammit. I went and checked the Internet Movie Database (www.imdb.com). This is what happens when you depend upon fan fic for your research and don't confirm things yourself.

"Dated Lola Schnabel, daughter of painter and film director Julian Schnabel, for nearly two years. Broke up in 2003."

So he and Lola were never married?! Dammit.

Well, it's Mommy time now. I'll fix it later... :D